In response to the initial question: It's you.
As others have said, look at the NUMBERS of these aircraft out there. They are outselling EVERYone else in the market, even now with a really down market. New airplanes tend to fly more at least initially than do older airplanes, I believe, especially when you just paid a half mil for the thing.
Cirrus has an in house training program. Does Cessna for it's piston models? How about HBC? Mooney?
As pointed out, the accident record is no worse than many other legacy airplanes. I SERIOUSLY doubt that very many pilots of the Cirrus make a go-no-go decision based on the availability of a parachute.
The airplane WAS spin tested for US certification, Cirrus CHOSE to certificate it based on alternate means of compliance (the parachute). It exhibited no unusual spin characteristics.
It's a fast airplane, it accelerates quickly, and the "average" Cirrus pilot isn't the most experienced, which is precisely why Cirrus has their own training program.
The accident near Grand Rapids, MN a couple years ago is illustrative of what may be the primary issue. Fortunately, that one was overturned on appeal, and it looks like Cirrus won't have to pay for the pilot's terrible mistake. A low time, VFR only pilot, who chose not to finish the Cirrus provided training (even though he'd paid for it in buying the airplane) and launched into VERY low clouds, before sunrise, in icing conditions, trying to scud run far enough to get into VFR......Not Cirrus' fault, and in my opinion, falls into the same category as the "Forked Tail Doctor Killer" legend associated with the Bonanza.
MTV