whee wrote:As to how to judge who to take a ride with, that’s a tough call and something you’ll have to figure out. I used to be willing to fly with most pilots but life has been teaching me some not so fun lessons so I’m becoming significantly more risk adverse. You’ll never actually know how safe someone is unless you fly with them and that’s a chance I’m no longer willing to take. I only need one hand to count the guys I’ll fly with...and that hand could have two fingers cut off.
This is a really tough decision... If you're too conservative, you will turn down some opportunities that could turn out to be both interesting and educational. If you're too "easy", you may find yourself in some VERY uncomfortable – or even downright dangerous – situations. Here's the thought process I go through.
I'm reasonably comfortable with the risk of flying with someone I may not know all that well – and whose piloting skills are relatively unknown to me – if we're just flying from one airport to another in a "familiar" airplane type (Skyhawk, Cherokee, Bonanza, etc.). The more challenging the flight profile, or the more challenging the airplane itself is to fly, the harder I look at the situation, and the lower my tolerance for risk becomes...
I'm not going to be comfortable flying into the backcountry with just anybody (and that would include some pretty famous YouTube "personalities") because of the elevated level of risk of that type of activity. If I'm the one piloting, I KNOW I can pull the plug and go elsewhere if / when my comfort level is exceeded. But I've seen even some of the really good YouTube pilots take some risks that significantly exceed my personal risk profile. (Water skiing? Nope!)
But even flying "airport to airport", I think the more "challenging" the airplane itself (think Pitts Special), the lower my comfort level gets. I'm not getting into a Pitts Special with just anybody. I'm going to know a lot more about them before I make that decision! Not because the airplane is "dangerous" but because I know that my skill level is insufficient in that airplane to even evaluate the other pilot's ability, and to say "knock it off" when I maybe should...
Even when I've agreed to fly with someone, I'm watching them prepare for the flight. Do they do check weather, perform a W&B calculation (I'm a big guy, so they should!), a good, thorough preflight, etc? Do they use a checklist, or just "wing it" as they go along? All of those things factor into my impressions, and if I get uncomfortable at any point along the way, I would not hesitate to back out of the flight (sudden onset of a migraine headache, etc.).
You have to find your own way to either get comfortable with flying with other people, or (as Whee does) have a very limited group of folks you know well enough to fly with...